My eight year-old self thought 30 was the age I’d have my entire life together. I thought I’d be a millionaire jet setting around the globe with a fabulous job, living out all of my dreams. Fast forward to age 29 and 10.5 months none of those things have happened. I’ve taken this year to reflect on why I’m not where I thought I’d be and the answer is simple. It’s me and the decisions I’ve made. It’s not like my life is awful but I definitely had higher hopes for myself. In a effort to fulfill the potential I know I have, I’ve been reading tons of books on everything from positive affirmations, meditation to wealth consciousness. Here’s what I’ve figured out.
Admit you’re the problem
If you’re not where you thought you’d be in life. It’s all your fault. No excuses. No extenuating circumstances. It’s you boo. Once you admit it and take responsibility, you can change your life starting that second.
Don’t be so hard on yourself
I am my harshest critic. Even if I didn’t screw up that bad and everyone said it was fine, I beat myself up in my head. I think there’s something fundamentally wrong with me. What I need to focus on is that my actions were screwed up, not me as a person. In order to be my best self, I have to stop being so hard on myself. I listened to a podcast by Dr. Venus Opal Reese that described negative self talk as self hate or self abuse. That’s exactly what it is. How can you expect yourself to do better or be better when you keep putting yourself down?
If you’re doing the same things as everyone else, you’re doing the wrong things
I’ve always known I was destined to be a self-made millionaire. But, I’m not there yet and one of the biggest reasons why is because I’ve been following the crowd.
- I went to college and got a steady corporate job, like everyone else
- I traded my dreams for a steady paycheck, like everyone else
- I became risk averse, like everyone else
- I complain about the things not going right in my life, like everyone else
And I wonder why I’m making a median salary, living in a mediocre apartment, working too hard at a monitions 9 to 5. If I want to be something different, I have to do something different. I have to tune out the nay sayers, take risks and go for what I believe in. Even if I fall flat on my face, at least I tried. I’m working on that as we speak.
Surround yourself with people moving in the same direction as you
It’s great to have dreams and aspirations, but if you’re surrounded by people just like you. You’ll go no where fast. The best thing to do is surround yourself with people going where you’re going or who already have the lifestyle you want. If you’re the least experienced, poorest person in a room full of successful entrepreneurs, hang around enough and their positive traits will rub off on you and get you where you plan to go faster.
Believe in God
I’m sorry (but not really) to bring this all back to God. But, if you don’t believe in Jesus or a higher power, you’re screwed. You can’t live a life of abundance being a screwed up, selfish person with no perspective. You might attain whatever success you desire, but you wont keep it. Trust.
If you’re not where you want to be hopefully these tips help.
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