I know most of the people reading this are perfect and have perfect friends. But there is a small percentage of folks reading this blog post who can admit they are imperfect and that they have friends who are imperfect as well. This blog post is for people like us.
Last week I had an interaction with Whitney and Alex that caused me to really question human behavior. Why do people feel like they have to justify their wrongdoing to their friends? And why do they expect their friends to support their wrong or unwise decision? If I’m doing a 30 vegetarian challenge during the entire month of April, why would I ask my fellow challengers about their feelings towards me going to a crawfish boil in mid-April. And why would I get upset when my friends tell me that it’s not a good idea?
This is exactly what happened when I asked Whitney and Alex to give me their two cents on me attending a crawfish boil. Alex informed me once again that seafood was not a part of the vegetarian diet and that if I attended a crawfish boil I should do the vegetarian thing and eat only the corn and potatoes. Similar to the tuna episode, this exchange of words took place via text. I replied Telling me to go to a crawfish boil and not eat the crawfish is like telling someone to go to a strip club and cover their eyes. Who does that!? I’ve never been to a strip club but I felt coming up with an extreme analogy would work in my favor. The extreme analogy technique is one of the tools in my rebuttal arsenal. But it didn’t work. Just like the tuna incident, I took a minute to think about the deeper issue. I don’t want to give up seafood or even demonstrate self-control to avoid it.
The #30DayVeg is really showing me how stubborn I can be and the different tactics I use to justify things that I want whether they are healthy or not. Interestingly, this is what we imperfect humans do in life too. Isn’t it easier to justify our wants versus apply self control that benefits our physical, social, spiritual, and mental well being? I should have just turned down the offer to go to the crawfish boil and not even brought it up to Whitney and Alex. But I just had to try to justify going without coming off like I really wanted to indulge in some seafood. You may think I’m looking to deep into this crawfish boil episode but read these statements I have heard from myself, friends, and random women in the gym locker room and see if you can identify the common thread:
The “Justifiable” Comment: Yeah, I said I was going to be vegetarian for the next 30 days. But I was invited to a crawfish boil by my boss (making it seem like she personally invited me when she really invited the whole staff).
My 2 Cents: I could have easily said “Thanks Boss Lady. But I’m participating in a #30DayVeg challenge with friends. I’ll take a rain check.”
The “Justifiable” Comment: Yeah, I said I was going to manage my money better. But the purse was 40% off.
My 2 Cents: 9 times out of 10, you didn’t need the purse. Have some self-control and stick to your budget.
The “Justifiable” Comment: Yeah, I said I was giving up sweets but you know I can’t turn down Sis. Patty’s pound cake.
My 2 cents: When you saw Sis. Patty walk into the church kitchen with that pound cake, you should’ve just turned the other way.
The “Justifiable” Comment:Yeah, I shouldn’t have let him come over but he was only supposed to replace my ceiling fan light bulbs.
My 2 cents: Sure, the only person that could replace your ceiling fan light bulbs was the dude you’re crushing on who happens to be the same dude that only texts you after 10:00 PM? Chile Please.
Disclaimer: Fashion accessories, food items, and appliances were changed to protect the privacy of the innocent and imperfect…including me. Well the crawfish one was all me. I’ll admit that one. Let’s face it. We’re human. We make mistakes and slip ups. Changing for the better requires self-control. Remember that insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different results. So if you hear about me having another slip up with seafood during the #30DayVeg, know that you have the right to call me Insane Moe! And just to think we’re in week 2. Argh!
Stay tuned for next week. Ice Cream: My New Crack
Love, Peace, and Sweat,
Monisha I. Randolph is a Senior Contributing Blogger for Sporty Afros. Founder of Runner’s Revelations, Monisha is a RRCA Certified Distance Running Coach specializing in running clinics and training programs for beginner runners. She’s also the author of Runner’s Revelations: How Running Changed My Walk. To learn more about Monisha please visit www.runnersrevelations.com. Follow her on Twitter @RunRevelations and join the Runner’s Revelations Fan Community on Facebook.
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